A How To Guide On Pulling Yourself Out Of A Bad Body Image Day
Bad body image days used to be the bane of my existence. It didn’t happen every single day but more often than not, I would get up in the morning and the first thing that would pop in to my head was, “I feel like a F!@#$% C!@#$%”. Following these thoughts I would run to the mirror, get naked, and pinch every ounce of my body, and then confirm everything I thought in my head to be completely, 100%, true. After that, it was a done deal. Not only would I be miserable for the rest of the day, or two or three days after that but it made me believe I had to starve myself or go on an extreme diet to “fix” the problem. The problem being ME and my BODY SIZE.
I found out years later, on my journey to healing my relationship with food and my body image, that I was the one who had to power to determine what I was going to do with the thoughts, “I feel like a F!@#$% C!@#$%”. I could either let it ruin my day and become extremely reactive and hate on myself (which never made me thinner) or I could choose something a little more positive and lighter. So, even though it was some of the hardest choices I have ever made for myself, it paid off in the long run because over time I stopped letting my weight determine my mood and I developed a loving and compassionate relationship with my body. In this post I want to share my most proven tricks to help you stay on track so that you don’t have to waste years of your life having bad body image days.
Your Thoughts are Not Your Reality
Your thoughts are thoughts, even if they feel like your reality. Imagine them like moving clouds. Watch and stay curious but don’t hold on to them because just as quick as they come through your mind they can be quick to leave if you stay put and let them move through you. It's only when we attach to our thoughts, they become our reality.
The Solution is Not A Diet
The answer isn’t dieting or using food to cope with negative feelings towards your body. Both can be true for you. You can either say, ” I hate my body and therefor I don’t care what I put in it, or you can say, “I look like shit, time to starve myself. But this reaction only puts you in a cycle with food that you don’t want to be in because you will diet, then fail and be back at the same place you started at. Instead, promise yourself to learn more about the practice of Intuitive Eating.
Nature has healing benefits towards your mood. Walk out your door even if it’s just for two minutes. Breath in fresh air. Look up at the sky. Go for a short walk, if you are able to. Get your blood flow moving. This should never be about calorie counting type movement. It should be to the get the stuck energy in your brain and body moving so you’re not frozen in one place with your negative thoughts brewing inside of you.
Acceptance is the Answer
Acceptance is the game changer for everything that isn’t the way you want it to be. So, show yourself some of it. Try to tell yourself, just for today you're going to choose to be loving towards yourself instead of hating yourself. Just for today, you are going to choose to accept yourself, not detest yourself. I know it sounds crazy but, acceptance of the present moment is totally healing.
Do you have bad body image days? If so, what do you do to pull yourself out of them?